Long Distance Relationship Scenario

The hardest part in any relationship is saying goodbye to that one very special person in your life. Mas mabuti pa nga ata yong mag break nalang kayo for a moment kesa nasa malayo yong isa & the other has to wait. And we all know naman that everyone hates the burden of waiting, especially of unsured things. Ang dami ding tanong pag dating sa LDR, like:

How could you work out the relationship when you are not together? Meron bang nagtatagal with that setup? or, Pano pag nakahanap siyang iba don?

Worst things could not or could happen, since there are no permanent things in this mundane world. In LDR, walang “WINNER” dahil pareho kayong “LOSER”, especially when you miss each other so much and there’s no possible way para makita niyo ang isa’t isa, since you are stucked somewhere.

Communication is essential in everything we do.

Pero kadalasan ito ang nagiging problema ng couples in LDR. Iba-iba kasi ang coping mechanism ng tao. Pwedeng si guy para hindi niya masyadong maisip si girl, he’ll maybe stop texting or calling his girlfriend for a while o kahit anong means of communication. Eh kaso lang si girl kabaliktaran, she wants it to be constant para hindi niya mamiss si guy. Ang gulo no? Pero ganon talaga, stressful ang malagay sa isang LDR. Meron pang times na may trust issues, lalo na pag may na observe or nakitang something new ang partner mo sayo like sa pictures on FB with some good looking girl or guy na naka akbay pa or anything with sweet gestures. Kaya lagot ka pag alam partner mo ang password ng mga social networking site mo.

So, lesson for everyone: Never make things that could possibly make your partner jealous, nakakasira ng relationship lang yon.

Kaya mag delete agad ng mga messages ng walang ebidensya at problema. Hahaha!

Here are my simple reminders!

Para sa naiwan:

It’s ok to miss someone but you must also know how to save your heart, mahirap magkasakit sa puso men! You should never expect, assume or demand, know your limits, role in relationship, and where you stand. Wag kang masyadong affected, paranoid or jealous. Just wait for your partner to contact you, sigurado namang mamimiss ka non.

Just go with the flow and as much as possible make yourself busy and happy.

Mahirap gawin pero kelangan para hindi mag worry yong nasa malayo and that your partner knows that you trust him/her.

Para sa nang iwan:

Do your part as well. Be sure to contact your partner once in awhile dahil hind 24 hours busy ang tao. If you two use FB, then drop a sweet message that could make your partner's day.

Just simply say that “i miss you” or “i love you”. That’s pretty enough, yong tinatawag na assurance ba.

Be constant with the promises you had made, so that you won’t end up messing things or worst ending the relationship. There’s nothing sure on this earth. Changes, yon lang ata ang masasabing permananente dito. Kaya pag di nag work yong LDR, dahil mahirap naman talaga malagay on that case.

Sometimes it’s better to let go even though you love each other so much, than being sick of waiting or hating the fact that you can’t be together for a long time.

But if you are meant to be, kahit ilang years pa yan o kahit magkaron pa kayo ng iba, destiny na mismo ang gagawa ng way para magkita kayo.

Kasi sabi nga nila, kung kayo ang para sa isa’t isa, kayo padin pagdating sa huli.

Kaya hanggan andyan pa siya, cherish every moment of it. Never miss the chance to show your love, para wala kang pagsisisihan. At least, you could tell yourself that you did your best mapasaya lang siya.

Sabi nga sa text message: Never give a person a reason to stay but give him/her a reason to come back.

Just wait for that special one. Weather you are waiting as a friend or just simply wondering when he/she is returning. Because missing someone even you are not together just means that person did something that no one else could. Every relationships has it’s up and down, but love is the most precious thing on earth.

Specially loving someone unconditionally even from afar.